Seven signs you might hate yourself
We all have days when we’re not exactly our own biggest fans. Heck, it’s a part of being human, right? But sometimes, those “not-so-fan” moments can start to pile up, creeping into a dangerous territory we like to call self-loathing. Here are seven signs that you might be in the self-loathing zone, and a few ways to start reclaiming the love for yourself that you rightfully deserve.
Feeling a little exposed? It’s okay. Now that we’ve done the tough job of self-reflecting, let’s talk about ways to overcome these feelings. First off, it’s essential to understand that these signs aren’t badges of shame. They’re simply indicators that you need a little more self-love in your life.
First and foremost, self-compassion is your new best friend. You wouldn’t berate your best friend for making a mistake, would you? So, start treating yourself with the same level of kindness. Think of a mantra that communicates self-love, such as “I am enough just as I am” and repeat it whenever the self-hate thoughts creep in.
Next up, challenge negative thoughts. When you catch yourself self-loathing, ask, “Is this really true?” More often than not, you’ll find that your inner critic is exaggerating or outright lying. By challenging these thoughts, you’ll start to shift your perspective.
Exercise is another powerful tool. Not only does it release endorphins (those feel-good hormones), but it also helps cultivate a sense of achievement and self-care. You don’t have to run a marathon. Just a brisk walk around the block or a few yoga poses will do.
Last but not least, consider seeking professional help. A mental health professional can provide valuable tools and techniques to navigate self-loathing and cultivate self-love.
In case of an emergency or when feelings of distress become overwhelming, try the 5-4-3-2-1 grounding exercise:
This technique helps bring you back to the present moment and away from distressing thoughts.
A daily meditation practice can also be incredibly helpful. Try a self-love meditation. Spend a few minutes each day visualizing a light within you, representing your inherent worth and love. Imagine this light spreading throughout your body, then radiating out into the world.
Remember, it’s okay to not be okay. What matters is acknowledging your feelings and making a conscious effort to love yourself more, because you truly deserve it. Now, go forth, and be your own best friend!