8 posts tagged with "work-life-balance"

Unless you've won the lottery or have a trust fund that pays out in premium coffee beans, you probably have a job. Most days, you're likely fine with that arrangement—solving problems, sending emails, and optimizing workflows. But let's be real: even the best jobs come with moments that make you want to delete your professional identity and start fresh.

Solitude isn't about forced isolation or loneliness. It's not about escaping the world to live in seclusion. Instead, solitude is a deliberate practice of nurturing your state of mind to achieve inner freedom and clarity. In this post, we'll explore the transformative power of solitude and how it can enrich your life.

Three months into a particularly brutal sprint cycle, I realized I was checking Slack at 2 AM and feeling genuinely anxious when my build pipelines turned green. That's when it hit me: this wasn't dedication anymore — this was burnout.

If you're in tech, you've probably been there. The endless on-call rotations, the "quick" deployment that breaks everything, the sprint retrospectives where everyone nods along but nothing actually changes. Burnout in our industry doesn't look like the Hollywood version of workplace stress. It's more subtle, more insidious, and definitely more tied to the unique challenges of building software.

The tech industry loves its optimization hacks — from IDE shortcuts to deployment pipelines. But here's one optimization that most of us overlook: gratitude practice. Not the fluffy, feel-good kind you see on Instagram, but a practical approach that actually rewires how you handle stress, setbacks, and the daily grind of shipping code.

I've been experimenting with gratitude practices for a few years now, and the results are surprisingly concrete. Better sleep, less reactivity during incident response, and a clearer perspective when projects go sideways. Let's break down why it works and how to implement it without the mystical nonsense.

Three months into my first senior developer role, I found myself staring at my screen at 2 AM, debugging the same function for the fourth consecutive hour. The code wasn't particularly complex, but my brain felt like it was running through molasses. When my alarm went off six hours later, the thought of opening my laptop made my stomach clench.

That's when I realized I wasn't just tired - I was burning out.

Developer burnout isn't just about working too many hours or dealing with difficult stakeholders. It's a systematic erosion of the passion, creativity, and problem-solving joy that drew us to coding in the first place. If you're reading this at 1 AM wondering if your love for development is permanently broken, you're not alone - and more importantly, it's fixable.

Ten years ago, I thought career success meant climbing the corporate ladder as fast as possible. More responsibility, bigger title, higher salary - rinse and repeat until retirement. Then life threw me a curveball that forced me to reconsider everything I thought I knew about professional fulfillment.

When my son was born with medical complexities that required constant attention, traditional career metrics suddenly felt hollow. Working 60-hour weeks for a promotion meant missing critical appointments. That corner office didn't matter if I couldn't be present for the people who needed me most.

That's when I learned the difference between career achievement and career success. Achievement is what others see on your LinkedIn profile. Success is how you feel when your head hits the pillow each night.

Find your routine​

In a typical office, you are naturally forced into a routine. I need to wake up early, shower, and drive to the office in order to ensure that I am at my desk from "9-5".

Without a forced schedule a typical day can become much less regimented, and you can find yourself working odd–longer hours to overcompensate. That little voice in your head starts whispering, "Since you're saving commute time, shouldn't you be working more hours?" Ignore that voice. It's lying to you.

Surviving Remote Work​

I have been a developer for almost 20 years. During that time I've wandered through countless office environments—from sterile corporate skyscrapers to chaotic startup lofts. I've navigated cubicle labyrinths that would make Daedalus proud and fought for "hot-desks" like they were the last lifeboat on a sinking ship. But starting in December 2019, I began a new chapter—100% remote work. Not by choice, but by necessity. And sometimes, the most profound changes in our lives come from circumstances we never anticipated.