12 posts tagged with "personal"

With yesterdya's new of the passing of Carl Dean, the beloved husband of Dolly Parton, I would like to share a re-imaging of the song he inspired.

Carl Dean was a man of quiet strength and unwavering support. As the beloved husband of Dolly Parton, he stood by her side through decades of triumphs and challenges. His love and dedication were a testament to the power of a steadfast partnership. Though he preferred a life away from the spotlight, his influence and presence were deeply felt by those who knew him. Carl's legacy will live on in the hearts of many, a reminder of the enduring power of love and commitment.

Twitter's been part of my daily routine for years — sharing code snippets, career insights, and connecting with the tech community. But recent changes have me rethinking where I spend my digital energy.

It's official: I'm starting a new job with General Dynamics (@GDMS). After nine incredible years at Barkley (@BarkleyUs, @BarkleyREI), it's time to turn the page to a new chapter.

This isn't a decision I made lightly.

Two years ago​

Two years ago today my son was born, We had known early on that it would be traumatic--He was diagnosed with a congenital diaphragmatic hernia and had a low survival chance. Over 50% of all diaphragmatic hernias are fatal.

A Fresh Start​

This site has taken many forms over the years, started in 1996 hosted as a simple Geocities site it has evolved many times and many ways. Most have been hosted at Dreamhost, my vendor of choice for the past 15 or so years.

Stay curious! And other things I learned too late​

Stay curious about everything and anything that you can. Curiosity is the key to learning and knowledge, and will help you grow in ways you never imagined.

Be kind to yourself. Self-love is the most important love of all, so treat yourself with kindness and respect every day!

Be kind to others. You never know what someone is going through, so be kind to everyone you meet. You never know when you might need someone to be kind to you.

As long as you do not harm others, you have the right to stand up for yourself and defend your rights. On the other hand, if you bring harm to others, you may forfeit these rights.

They told me that my son was a gift to science. They told me that I should abort. They told me to donate his remains to the hospital for research so that some good could come from his condition.

Where have I been lately​

It's been quite a while since my last update. I haven't stopped writing, and I haven't given up on the site (again). Life has a way of throwing curveballs, and I've had quite a few things going on—some too personal to share. But I want you to know that I plan on being more present moving forward.

You don't have to be a superhero​

Do you have what it takes to fight a dragon? Probably not, but that's okay. Most princesses these days are in very little need of rescue. Courage isn't something that you have. It is the choice to stand up and act on your beliefs.

This series will focus on answering direct questions. I do not promise to answer every question received, but I do promise that every answer will be honest, sometimes brutally so. When applicable, I will provide links to resources, but most of the responses will be derived directly from past experiences, and stories.

If you wish to ask a question, feel free to reach out via e-mail.

This Isn't for You​

After years of silence, I’m back. But let me be clear: this isn’t for you. This site will have typos. It will have grammatical quirks and moments where tense shifts like a poorly edited movie. And you know what? I don’t care. This space is my playground, my canvas, my therapy. Sometimes, you might stumble upon something profound. Other times, it might just be a fleeting thought or a random curiosity. If you find value here, great. If not, remember: I’m not doing this for you.