Hello everyone! Ris here. As we embark on a fresh year, I've decided to share some personal goals I'm setting for myself. This isn't just a New Year's resolution; it's more of a roadmap for personal growth and fulfillment. My mission revolves around three core objectives: writing more frequently, enhancing my overall health, and being a better father and partner.
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View All TagsFive Reasons to Focus on the Now
It's easy to get caught up in planning your future. Planning for a secure and happy future is a significant undertaking. However, spending too much attention on unknowns can significantly inhibit your ability to focus on the here and now.
At this very moment, you can begin to enjoy your everyday life that is currently flashing unnoticed right before your eyes. So let the future come naturally and live joyfully and willingly in the present moment!
Be active not passive
Parenting Principle #7: Be Active, Not Passive. Be Curious, Not judgmental
Building a happy home and healthy children requires an intentional effort from every member of the family. It’s easy to turn on Netflix and have a day when you don’t have to pay attention to anything. Some days, that really is exactly what you need.
Foster a grateful heart
Parenting Principle #6: Demonstrate your gratitude
Practice gratitude each day – both alone and with your family. Practice gratitude every day. Just 15 minutes of gratitude each day has many benefits that grow from your heart, to the heart of your family, and on to your community.
Teach emotional intelligence
Parenting Principle #8: Teach emotional intelligence
Emotional intelligence is defined as “the capacity to be aware of, control, and express one's emotions, and to handle interpersonal relationships judiciously and empathetically.”
This skill is one that is carefully crafted. Teaching this skill is not easy -- it requires allowing vulnerability and truth.
What are the best ways to parent
Eight parenting principles for happier and healthier families
There’s no perfect way to parent. Having children means embracing the unpredictability of life. When you have principles to help guide the way you raise your kids and build your family, you’re better able to stay consistent throughout the ebbs and flows of life.
Kids will be as successful as you believe they can be
Parenting Principle #5: Believe in your kids
It can be disappointing and frustrating when kids don’t meet the expectations you’ve set out for them based on your values. When the same mistake is repeated over and over again, you may begin to lose hope. It’s natural to begin thinking of your child in a less positive light.
Mistakes are okay
Parenting Principle #4: Don't be afraid to make mistakes
Life is in a constant flow of success and failure, of happiness and disappointment. This is the nature of life. It is uncomfortable and difficult, but going through difficulty builds resilience. If you find that your child has made a mistake, you may want to comfort them and solve the problem for them.
Be firm but fair
Parenting Principle #3: Define fair boundaries
You’re the first source of knowledge for your kids. It is your job to prepare them for success in the real world. Part of this process means teaching your kids that there are consequences for all of our actions.
You may see your child be friendly to someone and then make a friend. This is a teachable moment where you can show your child that when you are kind and respectful, good things happen. Valuable teachable moments also come about when children do not meet expectations.
Why You Need Family Expectations and Values
Parenting Principle #1: Family Expectations
Creating a consistent household starts with values. Values are sources of strength and direction for everyone in the family. These can dictate the way the family makes decisions together. Values such as authenticity, honesty, respect, and love can flow into every aspect of the family.
You are a parent not a friend
Parenting Principle #2: Be a parent
As children grow older, they begin exploring their own identity. This can lead to a bit of distance between you and your child. This can be hurtful. You have worked so hard and you may sometimes feel unappreciated. Some parents try to connect with their kids by becoming lenient and acting more like a friend than a parent.