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Ordinary Courage

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You don't have to be a superhero

Do you have what it takes to fight a dragon? Probably not, but that's okay. Most princesses these days are in very little need of rescue. Courage isn't something that you have. It is the choice to stand up and act on your beliefs.

Courage comes from a willingness to take a risk, to open yourself up to the vulnerability that comes with showing the world the person you are, and not what the world expects you to be.

Courage is what it takes to say "I am going to love you" even if you don't know that the person you love will reciprocate--and especially if they already love one or more other partners.

Courage is what it takes to sleep alone knowing that your partner is sharing a bed with a lover, and being able to love them anyway. Courage is trusting against reason.

Courage can't promise a happy ending

Courage doesn't come with any guarantees. Courage is something you practice. Day by day. Knowing that if you fail--you will get another chance. Always.

Courage comes from doing the things that scare the shit out of you.

Love, real and raw, is scary

Remember this: If you want to learn how to ride a bike: Buy a bicycle and practice.

If you want to learn how to love: Find someone. Love them. Let them love you.

You cannot conquer your fears by avoiding your fears.

Expanded Thoughts on Courage

Courage is not a one-time act of bravery; it’s a continuous journey. It’s the small, everyday decisions that define it. It’s choosing to have that difficult conversation, to apologize when you’re wrong, or to stand up for someone who can’t stand up for themselves.

Courage is also about self-compassion. It’s forgiving yourself for your mistakes and allowing yourself the grace to grow. It’s about understanding that vulnerability is not a weakness but a strength that connects us to others.

Practical Ways to Practice Courage

  1. Start Small: Take one small step outside your comfort zone every day. It could be as simple as speaking up in a meeting or trying a new hobby.
  2. Be Honest: Practice radical honesty with yourself and others. Say what you mean and mean what you say.
  3. Embrace Failure: View failure as a stepping-stone rather than a setback. Each failure is a lesson that brings you closer to success.
  4. Show Gratitude: Acknowledge the courage in others. Celebrate their bravery, and you’ll find it easier to recognize your own.

Courage is the willingness to work for the things you want--and never giving up.